Higher Learning Chapter 1

Okay, I have spent most of my adult life thinking I was earning my PHD in women. Anyone who has attempted any level of college course can understand me when I say that some classes are fairly simple and you can probably make a C if you just show up every time. Then there are classes where you complete all of the homework and do extra credit and just barely make a C. I would say I earned my bachelors in women fairly easy with a B average. My Masters was even better as I layed a pretty good foundation in undergrad. But this PHD is turning out to be a major headache.



It seems that the wants and desires of the majority of the women just aren't what they used to be. Just to clear the air, I am not searching for a woman, but merely observing the behavior and interaction of males and females. This post will be the beginning of a series of higher learning about the interaction betweem today's male and female.



I found myself in Martini's of Birmingham this past Friday, which is a pretty nice establishment. I did my usual when I hit the scene, make my way to the bar and get a drink. I noticed a young lady standing at the bar, so I complimented her on her earrings. I didn't like them so much but I figured she wanted a compliment on them because they were huge and colorful. She gave me a smug look and said thank you all nasty. I just smiled and proceeded with procuring my drink. Not more than 39 seconds later, this girl complimented her on the earrings and she acted like she was 4 years old and the tooth fairy left 2 dollars underneath her pillow. Now, I'm no Denzel but I had on my white lenins, loafers, light blue 2-pocket longsleeved cotton shirt with the roll up sleeves that button up at the biceps, and a fresh haircut. Once you throw in the flashing lights, I had to atleast be an 8.5-9 on any scale. This behavior really had me thrown off. I then begin to make my rounds through the club trying to check it out from wall to wall. By that time the Beyonce song came on, you know the one where she goes through the foray of dances at the end...the scissor legs...tick fight..pat your weave...etc.. This girl, whom had some pink stretch pants on that seemed to have been molded onto her body, was putting in some work. She knew the entire routine and did a better job than B herself. This guy was admiring her the entire time, hell all the guys were admiring her the entire time, and he decided to try and talk to her. She shot him all the way down as if he simply wasn't worthy of her attention. She then proceeded to hi-five her girls and they partied hard the remainder of the night. Now I know sometimes women just go to the club to enjoy each other and have a good time and there is nothing wrong with that, however, understand that guys are going to holla at you. If you don't want guys to say anything to you then don't shower, wear jogging pants, a pullover, and a skull cap. Then maybe, just maybe, only one guy will try to holla. Other than that, just graciously smile and say no when he compliments you and tries to get your number. Imagine how you would feel if you wanted attention in the club and couldn't get it. So I guess what I'm trying to determine is, isn't it human nature for the woman to dress up and show her inner/outer beauty and for the guy to give his appreciation? Has that law changed into women dress up and get down in order to be admired by their friends and strangers of the same sex? What is a guy to do?

Yep....It's Tricking

So my man Bruce Leroy wanted to know if/when it was tricking? Well yeah...speaking specifically about what he asked about, I found this article where some women say that finding shoes (!!!) is better than sex.Really?!?! Since when?!? Guys, when did it get this bad? What happened? (The article talks specifically about natural highs, and things that bring them on, i.e. skydiving, rock climbing, and public speakin (?!?!)...) But here's the part that got me:
The 34-year-old Brazilian native who now calls State College, Pennsylvania, home says there's just something about heels, sandals, platforms and wedges that give her a rush.

"They're thrilling," says the entrepreneur, who recently started designing her own line of shoes and selling them online and through a handful of retail locations.

She still remembers the rush she got when she found a pair of strappy gold heel sandals at a boutique in Brazil. "I'll never forget it," she recalls, "that feeling of being powerful and sexy in those shoes."




So yeah, man..think twice about copping those MaryJanes. As sexy as they are, you gotta resist it. If she's selfish, the ONLY thing that you're gonna get is the opportunity to get her off by buying some shoes.

Barack as President a nice step, but we still got work to do

Okay, so in my mind it's more or less a foregone conclusion that Barack Hussein Obama will be the next President of these United States of America. That makes me swell with pride. Because for once I can say that my country thought enough of itself to realize that change was very necessary. It makes me proud because, we can notice the catalyst for that change and believe whole-heartedly in ourselves to make that change come about. Barack is merely the figure-head for that change. We are the ones responsible for making the change. Notice that I said nothing about him being Black. While it does matter a great deal that he'll be the first Black American to become president of the US, it really means nothing if we're not actively living out that change that we feel like he can bring. His presidency will be living proof to little Black boys & girls everywehre that, YES THEY CAN be whatever they want to be in life. That's a great thing. But what irks me to death is when I hear Black people saying, "Just wait until Barack gets in office. It'll be our time then." Oh really?!?! Can someone explain to me how this can erase 400 years of oppression, misunderstanding, and self-loathing? Black people, even with Barack as president, we have a LONG way to go. In fact, I just read an article last week where some white supremacist groups are rooting for Obama to become president so those of that ilk can say to themselves, "Okay, enough is enough." So if that's the attitude that they're going to take, we have a long way to go not only as Black people, but as Americans.
My partner, Bruce Leroy, seems to think that Barack could be the Anti-Christ, because he's so appealing. He makes too much sense and he's too perfect for the job. I don't think he's the anti-Christ, and he's far from perfect for the job. But I think for such a time as we're in now, I can't think of a better candidate. He will achieve many great things in office, but one thing that he cannot do is save us from ourselves. We, Black folks, have to take some initiative and responsibility for our own lives. That's when it will be "our time".

When is it tricking?

After a weekend of browsing at the mall for both sale items and the women who would be purchasing those items, I begin to wonder, what wouldn't a guy do for a night with a woman. When I say woman, I'm talking about 8,9 and dimes, not just any run of the mill chick. I have been to the occasional bachelor party or even the guys night out when an exotic dancer or two are the main event. On plenty of these outings I have noticed them end with an exchange of a few dollars for a service. In most cases these chicks aren't the finest you will see, but after a few shots and with the flashing lights, they are a welcomed commodity. This led me to wonder if this holds true for the beautiful woman that you may notice perusing in the mall? I mean if she offered to bend over if you would buy those black BCBG Mary Janes, would that be considered as tricking off? I would love to tell you that I wouldn't yield to such temptation, but if she is bowlegged, has dimples, cute face, and a phat azz, then she got me! Rarely would this agreement end with her showing something for some couture. Next would probably be the occasional visits to the bar, sporting events, sandwich shop, or even a weekend movie or dinner date. So, would this behavior fall into the category of tricking? I mean, if so we are all tricking because that seems to be the standard right now if you want the type of woman that you dream about.

As Weezy says, "It ain't tricking if you got it", but I disagree. I think if she is deserving of the showering/pampering or whatever you want to call it then it isn't tricking. However, if you just feel the urge to buy a random chick what you would buy for your main girl, then that has to be considered as tricking. So I challenge all guys and gals to look deep down within themselves and determine whether or not your behavior is tricking!